#THE_YEAR_OF_REDEEMING_TIME. "Dear Brother, Don't marry her if she lacks these 6 things." (Adapted from Apostle Joshua Selman's teachings) 1.God fearing/Genuinely born again. If she is not God fearing, if she has no reverence of God, don't marry her. I just didn't say Born again because it's one of the most abused phrase in this 21st century. One can be born again but has no fear of God. This is a very dangerous person. Now, let me educate you a bit. Now, don't just go around asking them, are you born again? When I used to do door to door Evangelism in campus (hostel), I realized something. That almost everyone/ every lady I talked to told me that they are born again. This sometimes came as a shock because I could see most of them walking around the campus and through their living demonstrating that they don't have any idea of what to be born again means. Keen scrutiny of their lives would show you that they are not right with God. Have you wondered why Paul spoke this scripture to Timothy? "Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.” — 2 Timothy 3:5 (KJV) Sincerely speaking there is this category of people in the body of Christ. I don't say this to embarrass someone but it's a wake up call! This is to all ladies and men. We confess what we aren't ready to sustain, God have mercy on us. You say you are born again but no reflection in yo Our life must resemble Christ if we claim to really know him and that we are born again. Yes it may be true you are born again, but can I tell from your life. Do I see Christ glorified in you? If not,there is a question mark. So brothers, don't ask them whether they are born again or not, you will miss it. Just take time and watch her life. "Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know them.” Mtt 7:20 (KJV) 2.Submissiveness. Submission is the ability to bring your strengths under control. (Sisters, don't marry a man you know you won't submit to). Submission is not weakness. Remember she has to submit to you for the rest of her life, if she gives a red flag of constantly raising her voice over you, run brother. Otherwise your hell will start here on Earth. A lady who cannot submit to you at all times (convinient or not). Run away Bro. It is very easy to know if a lady can submit to you or not. Personally in the circle of my friends, I am able to clearly detect those who won't be submissive. Ladies reading this, I pray for you. May God help you to be submissive otherwise, you will loose something important. Anyone who masters the art of submission is not weak, infact they are very strong because they know how to tame their strength. Sister, if this post offends you, go down on your knees and pray. There is a problem. 3. Teachability She must be teachable. There are some ladies who teach everybody, they claim to know everything and would not want to learn anything new, I call them the Gamaliels. my brother, DON'T MARRY HER. There are some ladies that no man can sit them down and talk to them even if he is a pastor. That's is pure pride, if you marry this one, she will embarrass you some day. Any lady who is not willing to sit down and be taught and learn something new is a no go zone. Brothers be warned! I repeat don't marry this kind of a lady. 4.Sacrificial and hospitable. A lady who cannot inconvenience herself because of you and the general growth! forget about that one.This is a domonstration of a mother figure in her. If she is not hospitable, don't marry her please brother. 5.Common faith. Vet her faith and determine the compatibility in faith. 2Cor.6.14 "...[do not make mismated alliances with them or come under a different yoke with them, _inconsistent with your faith] I have seen some people fight over denomination thing! To avoid such fights, make sure you marry a lady that her faith is consistent to yours and what you are used to. This is important to both men and ladies. 6. Physically attractive. Here is when the Beauty thing comes in. It should be in this order of priority. Ladies, Don't carry a shirt that is twice your size. Just be modest in dressing. Modest does note mean oversize. Yes your mother gave it to you but must you tell us,must everybody know it was a gift, reduce it. The brothers are not idiots. Brothers look for what looks like your future.Brothers look for what looks like your future. If she lacks these 6 things, it doesn't matter whether she is from the church or not. Don't just be obsessed with the church going thing. It's more than that Sir. May God help us.